Monday, March 10, 2008
Adult dating - there is safety in numbers
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Sunday, March 2, 2008
What Does It Take To Find Love Online?
Stop and think about it...What does it take to find love online?
Believe it or not, internet dating isn’t for everyone. Many people need to accept that.
I have had conversations with both men and women. I am stunned at the number of people that believe they are in love...totally in love, after a exchanging a few emails and a couple of I.M. sessions. I think they are so tired of being alone, they latch onto this new person like a life line.
If you act out of desperation, you are choosing to ignore issues that will continue to slap you in the face:
Emails not being answered promptly. Phone calls not being returned at night and on the week ends. Your “love interest†refusing to give more information about themselves. Their emotions switch back and forth...from hot to cold and back again.
Now is the time to shut the “relationship†down. There are a few too many red flags. Before even meeting this person, he is already putting you through emotional changes! You should refuse to accept or tolerate it. Don’t you deserve better? I think so...
Whether you have what it takes to find love online or not, there are certain ground rules that must be adhered to. Don’t share them with your new “love interestâ€. Until you are sure you can trust this person, it would be like giving a robber your house key.
Will you accept the fact that most people online are not willing to commit to a monogamous relationship? Even though they will give you the impression that they are totally committed to you? (They are hoping you will take your profile down, and take yourself off the online singles market.)
Will you accept the fact that the person you are interested in, continues to pursue other people online? (Basically, they are still “shopping†for a better deal! But, they will be back if they can’t find one!)
Will you accept the fact, that at least 50% of their profile is probably a lie? Maybe they are small lies, or maybe they are much larger lies.
If you are unable to honestly say yes to all three of those questions, you may not have what it takes to find love online.
About the Author
I have been involved in online dating since the very beginning, and I have had a blast!
Find out more and arm yourself with a few online dating skills.
Online Dating Skills - Works Very Well Offline Too!
For A Limited Time Only - 3 Free Online Dating Reports
http://www.realinternetdating411.com/freereports.html
For more dating tools, take an actual peek at the chapters in Real Internet Dating 411.
http://www.realinternetdating411.com
Believe it or not, internet dating isn’t for everyone. Many people need to accept that.
I have had conversations with both men and women. I am stunned at the number of people that believe they are in love...totally in love, after a exchanging a few emails and a couple of I.M. sessions. I think they are so tired of being alone, they latch onto this new person like a life line.
If you act out of desperation, you are choosing to ignore issues that will continue to slap you in the face:
Emails not being answered promptly. Phone calls not being returned at night and on the week ends. Your “love interest†refusing to give more information about themselves. Their emotions switch back and forth...from hot to cold and back again.
Now is the time to shut the “relationship†down. There are a few too many red flags. Before even meeting this person, he is already putting you through emotional changes! You should refuse to accept or tolerate it. Don’t you deserve better? I think so...
Whether you have what it takes to find love online or not, there are certain ground rules that must be adhered to. Don’t share them with your new “love interestâ€. Until you are sure you can trust this person, it would be like giving a robber your house key.
Will you accept the fact that most people online are not willing to commit to a monogamous relationship? Even though they will give you the impression that they are totally committed to you? (They are hoping you will take your profile down, and take yourself off the online singles market.)
Will you accept the fact that the person you are interested in, continues to pursue other people online? (Basically, they are still “shopping†for a better deal! But, they will be back if they can’t find one!)
Will you accept the fact, that at least 50% of their profile is probably a lie? Maybe they are small lies, or maybe they are much larger lies.
If you are unable to honestly say yes to all three of those questions, you may not have what it takes to find love online.
About the Author
I have been involved in online dating since the very beginning, and I have had a blast!
Find out more and arm yourself with a few online dating skills.
Online Dating Skills - Works Very Well Offline Too!
For A Limited Time Only - 3 Free Online Dating Reports
http://www.realinternetdating411.com/freereports.html
For more dating tools, take an actual peek at the chapters in Real Internet Dating 411.
http://www.realinternetdating411.com
Thursday, November 29, 2007
Is Online Dating That Much Fun
Online dating is fun because you can meet and talk to as many people as you like. If you find a few to continue an online relationship with, you do not have to disclose this information to anyone. This makes it easy for you to explore different avenues when looking for a companion. You might want someone as a friend, but want someone else for a relationship. Online dating can be adventurous and exciting. You might even compare it to a popular television show "The Dating Game". It is the same thing except you make the rules and only meet the person that you want.
Many online dating sites have an area where you can sign up and pick people from the list to correspond with, this makes it easier to find some people that have similar interests and feel the same way about things that you do. Online dating can be fun because the people are interesting and you meet a mixture of people. You might find out that someone has an interest that you would like to try. The thing about online dating is you have to take it slow. Online dating is not like going out on a blind date, you are meeting people you may not have ever thought about for a relationship.
Building friendships is the only way to have a successful online dating experience. Many people join online dating sites to make friends. You never know if someone wants a relationship or a friendship. Besides the online dating sites, there are the social networking sites, but these are different from dating sites. You do not have the ability to protect your personal information or that of your friends as you do with a dating site. Even so, these sites are fun for meeting new people and getting a good conversation going.
Even though the sites are secure, you need to be careful about who you meet and give your information to before getting to know the person. Some people can spend hours conversing with others while others pick just one person at a time. You can still meet people from your area or people from far away. If you are looking to relocate or have relocated, online dating is a good way to meet new people. You can look for people in your area or the surrounding area for a possible relationship or just for friendships.
Some people have a hard time meeting new people for the first time and carrying on a conversation, but online or a on a phone, people can open up and talk. This is another great aspect of online dating. If you are a little shy, you can establish a communication with someone and that helps ease the tension of a first time meeting. When you get to know people online, you can choose the time to divulge information or remain anonymous. I am sure that You will find dating even more fun when you meet people through an online dating service.
About the Author
If you need strong advice on how to date online then please visit our online dating site. Also take a look at our article section if you want some quick online dating tips.
Many online dating sites have an area where you can sign up and pick people from the list to correspond with, this makes it easier to find some people that have similar interests and feel the same way about things that you do. Online dating can be fun because the people are interesting and you meet a mixture of people. You might find out that someone has an interest that you would like to try. The thing about online dating is you have to take it slow. Online dating is not like going out on a blind date, you are meeting people you may not have ever thought about for a relationship.
Building friendships is the only way to have a successful online dating experience. Many people join online dating sites to make friends. You never know if someone wants a relationship or a friendship. Besides the online dating sites, there are the social networking sites, but these are different from dating sites. You do not have the ability to protect your personal information or that of your friends as you do with a dating site. Even so, these sites are fun for meeting new people and getting a good conversation going.
Even though the sites are secure, you need to be careful about who you meet and give your information to before getting to know the person. Some people can spend hours conversing with others while others pick just one person at a time. You can still meet people from your area or people from far away. If you are looking to relocate or have relocated, online dating is a good way to meet new people. You can look for people in your area or the surrounding area for a possible relationship or just for friendships.
Some people have a hard time meeting new people for the first time and carrying on a conversation, but online or a on a phone, people can open up and talk. This is another great aspect of online dating. If you are a little shy, you can establish a communication with someone and that helps ease the tension of a first time meeting. When you get to know people online, you can choose the time to divulge information or remain anonymous. I am sure that You will find dating even more fun when you meet people through an online dating service.
About the Author
If you need strong advice on how to date online then please visit our online dating site. Also take a look at our article section if you want some quick online dating tips.
Dangers of Online Dating - Six Ways To Keep Yourself Safe In Cyberspace
Internet dating is becoming a lot more mainstream, as folks from every walk of life connect and find their soul mate in cyberspace. So how do you protect yourself while trying to meet new people you may wish to date? Here are six tips to finding that special somebody while still preserving your privacy and safety online.
1. Avoid huge, public chat rooms where anything can (and usually does!) happen. Some users frequent these areas just to see what they can get away with. Instead, choose smaller, more targeted web internet sites or chat rooms that match your interests or life-style. There are many internet dating sites that cater to particular hobbies and several offer free trial memberships.
2. Once you find a chat room, dating site, or forum that meets your interest, introduce yourself with only as much information as you feel comfortable presenting. Do not plaster your telephone number, address or any other private information on the site. Hold off until you encounter somebody with whom you truly "click" and have talked to them for a while. Common sense and that "gut feeling" are outstanding indicators for when something just does not feel quite right.
3. Participate in the discussion board or chat room on a regular basis. Keep it "low-key" until you begin making friendships with the regular members there. Be honest, and be yourself - after all, being natural is what will endear you to a particular partner.
4. Keep your correspondence confined to e-mail and chat until you get to know the individual well enough to feel comfortable sharing your phone number and speaking for the first time. If you need a good ice-breaker, begin the chat by discussing the forum or chat room where you met and any particular interests that brought you together.
5. If you choose to meet one another in person, choose a neutral, public place. You may even choose a town or city that is not the same as the one where you dwell. Restaurants, parks, theaters and other public locates where folks meet frequently are a good place to begin. Alternately, you could decide to attend a special event in your area together, possibly a concert, festival or fair. Either way, let family or friends know where you are going and who you are going with, as well as what time you will be coming back so they will know how and where to contact you.
6. If you are interested in several online "matches" that come your way, look at setting up a post office box and a free e-mail account to share information with each other. That way, if you come to discover that you really do not "click" with this individual, you will not feel as though you have given any personal contact information away.
If you stick with these six tips, chances are you will have a wonderful time with your cyber date. Remember to be honest and be yourself! If you do, probabilities are that you will discover that idealized special somebody who relishes you for who you are! Oh, and you will be having a lot of fun too, while keeping yourself safe online.
About the Author
Kelly Jones, better known as blushgirl has been in the online dating scene since 1996. Her experience in the field helps her answer questions on romance and relationships for her site visitors and allows her to meticulously review dating and matchmaking sites. Kelly has provided a guide to the best online dating sites on the Internet right now at: http://www.squidoo.com/adult-dating-sites
1. Avoid huge, public chat rooms where anything can (and usually does!) happen. Some users frequent these areas just to see what they can get away with. Instead, choose smaller, more targeted web internet sites or chat rooms that match your interests or life-style. There are many internet dating sites that cater to particular hobbies and several offer free trial memberships.
2. Once you find a chat room, dating site, or forum that meets your interest, introduce yourself with only as much information as you feel comfortable presenting. Do not plaster your telephone number, address or any other private information on the site. Hold off until you encounter somebody with whom you truly "click" and have talked to them for a while. Common sense and that "gut feeling" are outstanding indicators for when something just does not feel quite right.
3. Participate in the discussion board or chat room on a regular basis. Keep it "low-key" until you begin making friendships with the regular members there. Be honest, and be yourself - after all, being natural is what will endear you to a particular partner.
4. Keep your correspondence confined to e-mail and chat until you get to know the individual well enough to feel comfortable sharing your phone number and speaking for the first time. If you need a good ice-breaker, begin the chat by discussing the forum or chat room where you met and any particular interests that brought you together.
5. If you choose to meet one another in person, choose a neutral, public place. You may even choose a town or city that is not the same as the one where you dwell. Restaurants, parks, theaters and other public locates where folks meet frequently are a good place to begin. Alternately, you could decide to attend a special event in your area together, possibly a concert, festival or fair. Either way, let family or friends know where you are going and who you are going with, as well as what time you will be coming back so they will know how and where to contact you.
6. If you are interested in several online "matches" that come your way, look at setting up a post office box and a free e-mail account to share information with each other. That way, if you come to discover that you really do not "click" with this individual, you will not feel as though you have given any personal contact information away.
If you stick with these six tips, chances are you will have a wonderful time with your cyber date. Remember to be honest and be yourself! If you do, probabilities are that you will discover that idealized special somebody who relishes you for who you are! Oh, and you will be having a lot of fun too, while keeping yourself safe online.
About the Author
Kelly Jones, better known as blushgirl has been in the online dating scene since 1996. Her experience in the field helps her answer questions on romance and relationships for her site visitors and allows her to meticulously review dating and matchmaking sites. Kelly has provided a guide to the best online dating sites on the Internet right now at: http://www.squidoo.com/adult-dating-sites
Friday, October 19, 2007
Seven Ways To Create Deep Attraction Using Conversation
It has been said that "awareness" is that time between naps. Many unsuspecting people are exposed to communication and seduction techniques that are clearly structured in the exact same way hypnotists use to put people to "sleep."
Too often when people speak to one another, all they're doing is downloading information onto each other. It is easy to talk to someone for hours and hours without entering into a genuine relationship with him or her. Worse, they're often doing it as "just the facts Maam/Sir" - feeling pressured to find out what "we have in common before we waste more time". This tendency to simply exchange stats stops conversation rather than keeps it going.
A conversation is more than an information exchange; to converse, you have to make a conscious effort to connect human-to-human, individual to individual, man to woman. If you're looking for something deeper and more involved, these suggestions will improve you ability to really connect with the opposite sex:
1. Avoid offering solutions (including giving advice or sympathy) - When people open up to share their true emotions and desires they are not doing it because they want to be told what to do about a problem. Sometimes, it's best to just ask more questions, using their own experience and let them talk. Sometimes all people want is to be heard.
2. Acknowledge the other person's feelings, experience or comment before sharing a similar experience or making a contribution of your own. It's reassuring to the other person and creates a sense of solidarity or closeness.
3. Be involved, animated and excited - Avoid wearing one single look and using one monotonous voice to bore the other person into tears, all in the name of conversation. To be interesting and unpredictable, use facial expressions to create moods, vary your voice to create different characters etc.
4. Use suggestive spaces - Don't talk too much and at greater length leaving the other person feeling that he or she did not have the opportunity to speak. If you say something, it must be a prod for the other person to join in. The best use of suggestive spaces is in "call-and -response" conversation where you use humour, puzzles and phrases that draw in the other person to participate.
5. Tell stories that are deeply meaningful to you - Most people try to tell stories that are supposedly funny just to entertain the other person; this is good but not enough. Stories that are from your heart (funny or not) are more likely to create a heart-to-heart-connection. When you tell your story make it in the present tense. The present tense puts the listener inside the story. It implies that the story does not belong to you alone, but to you and the person listening--you are experiencing it together.
6. Engage in witty repartee - Use the surprise element or "shock" effect to create pleasurable anticipation (not uneasiness); use his or her own words or phrases, twist and turn them around, and pretend to misinterpret and misconstrue what he or she is saying - but make sure he or she knows you are just being playful and not hurtful.
7. Accept disruptions and encourage disagreement - Take more interest in understanding where he or she is coming from rather than trying to achieve agreement or to change his or her mind . People feel closer to you when they feel listened to and treated well.
By simply changing how you engage in conversation, you can dramatically change the chemistry. If you are looking for more ways to seduce a man or woman using conversation, visit my websites for intriguing and unconventional ways of seducing and creating deep and lasting attraction.
About the Author
About the Author: Christine Akiteng, Internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of ebook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness� helps men and women cultivate that NATURAL EASE that draws the opposite sex in - without the mental stress and emotional frustration of today's dating dynamics.
Christine's websites: http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com and http://www.theartofseducingoutoffullness.com
Too often when people speak to one another, all they're doing is downloading information onto each other. It is easy to talk to someone for hours and hours without entering into a genuine relationship with him or her. Worse, they're often doing it as "just the facts Maam/Sir" - feeling pressured to find out what "we have in common before we waste more time". This tendency to simply exchange stats stops conversation rather than keeps it going.
A conversation is more than an information exchange; to converse, you have to make a conscious effort to connect human-to-human, individual to individual, man to woman. If you're looking for something deeper and more involved, these suggestions will improve you ability to really connect with the opposite sex:
1. Avoid offering solutions (including giving advice or sympathy) - When people open up to share their true emotions and desires they are not doing it because they want to be told what to do about a problem. Sometimes, it's best to just ask more questions, using their own experience and let them talk. Sometimes all people want is to be heard.
2. Acknowledge the other person's feelings, experience or comment before sharing a similar experience or making a contribution of your own. It's reassuring to the other person and creates a sense of solidarity or closeness.
3. Be involved, animated and excited - Avoid wearing one single look and using one monotonous voice to bore the other person into tears, all in the name of conversation. To be interesting and unpredictable, use facial expressions to create moods, vary your voice to create different characters etc.
4. Use suggestive spaces - Don't talk too much and at greater length leaving the other person feeling that he or she did not have the opportunity to speak. If you say something, it must be a prod for the other person to join in. The best use of suggestive spaces is in "call-and -response" conversation where you use humour, puzzles and phrases that draw in the other person to participate.
5. Tell stories that are deeply meaningful to you - Most people try to tell stories that are supposedly funny just to entertain the other person; this is good but not enough. Stories that are from your heart (funny or not) are more likely to create a heart-to-heart-connection. When you tell your story make it in the present tense. The present tense puts the listener inside the story. It implies that the story does not belong to you alone, but to you and the person listening--you are experiencing it together.
6. Engage in witty repartee - Use the surprise element or "shock" effect to create pleasurable anticipation (not uneasiness); use his or her own words or phrases, twist and turn them around, and pretend to misinterpret and misconstrue what he or she is saying - but make sure he or she knows you are just being playful and not hurtful.
7. Accept disruptions and encourage disagreement - Take more interest in understanding where he or she is coming from rather than trying to achieve agreement or to change his or her mind . People feel closer to you when they feel listened to and treated well.
By simply changing how you engage in conversation, you can dramatically change the chemistry. If you are looking for more ways to seduce a man or woman using conversation, visit my websites for intriguing and unconventional ways of seducing and creating deep and lasting attraction.
About the Author
About the Author: Christine Akiteng, Internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of ebook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness� helps men and women cultivate that NATURAL EASE that draws the opposite sex in - without the mental stress and emotional frustration of today's dating dynamics.
Christine's websites: http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com and http://www.theartofseducingoutoffullness.com
Thursday, October 18, 2007
Dating Online For Singles
Internet dating is probably the best thing to happen to singles. Years ago, being single meant trawling bars, chatting up colleagues, singles clubs and of course the well meaning friends who would try and set you up with their other single friend. I even read an article in a newspaper a few years ago about how supermarkets were the best places to get a date. Nowadays, all of the above are redundant methods of meeting a partner. Online dating has gone mainstream, and if you are thinking of checking it out, this article may convince you to take action.
Online dating works by virtue of their being thousands of other members of pretty much every site you think about joining. Most of these people upload photographs of themselves, so you can see what they look like as well as get some idea of their personality by reading their profile. The more members there are, the more likely it is that you will meet someone you may want to have a relationship with. If you are new to internet dating, you should probably go with one of the larger more established dating sites as they will have more members than the more specialised niche dating sites.
Girls tend to get more interest on dating sites than guys do, so for this reason it is important that you pay special attention to your profile. If you wouldn't date someone 10 years older than you, then set your age range accordingly. Otherwise you will get emails from people who you would not want to go out with. Its only polite to answer emails, so unless you want to spend your time sending rejection emails then make your profile as refined as possible.
If you send messages to people you like, and reply to messages sent to you, it won't be too long before you are actually going on dates. Try and get to know the person as well as possible online before you meet them offline. This helps you to filter out the people who you know you won't like. There is no point in going on a series of first dates with people you aren't compatible with. This will only serve to give you a negative impression of online dating.
Dating online for singles can be a huge amount of fun, and it's a great way to meet other singles. There is no need to be depressed about being single anymore, online dating works and if you are prepared to commit some time to you will surely succeed.
About the Author
Julie Westbrook is an expert in the field of Internet Dating, and has recently launched a new site at http://www.Internet-Dating-Lowdown.com which aims to cover all aspects of the online dating experience for both men and women. Can't decide which dating site to go for? Why not try http://www.best-internet-dating-site.com
Online dating works by virtue of their being thousands of other members of pretty much every site you think about joining. Most of these people upload photographs of themselves, so you can see what they look like as well as get some idea of their personality by reading their profile. The more members there are, the more likely it is that you will meet someone you may want to have a relationship with. If you are new to internet dating, you should probably go with one of the larger more established dating sites as they will have more members than the more specialised niche dating sites.
Girls tend to get more interest on dating sites than guys do, so for this reason it is important that you pay special attention to your profile. If you wouldn't date someone 10 years older than you, then set your age range accordingly. Otherwise you will get emails from people who you would not want to go out with. Its only polite to answer emails, so unless you want to spend your time sending rejection emails then make your profile as refined as possible.
If you send messages to people you like, and reply to messages sent to you, it won't be too long before you are actually going on dates. Try and get to know the person as well as possible online before you meet them offline. This helps you to filter out the people who you know you won't like. There is no point in going on a series of first dates with people you aren't compatible with. This will only serve to give you a negative impression of online dating.
Dating online for singles can be a huge amount of fun, and it's a great way to meet other singles. There is no need to be depressed about being single anymore, online dating works and if you are prepared to commit some time to you will surely succeed.
About the Author
Julie Westbrook is an expert in the field of Internet Dating, and has recently launched a new site at http://www.Internet-Dating-Lowdown.com which aims to cover all aspects of the online dating experience for both men and women. Can't decide which dating site to go for? Why not try http://www.best-internet-dating-site.com
Monday, October 8, 2007
What Are the Odds of Finding Mr. Right Online?
The odds of finding your “soul-mate” online are a lot better than you may think. It doesn’t happen for everyone, of course, but it can happen for you. The world of internet or online dating has exploded over the last few years.
As our lives become busier and busier we need to make better use of our time and energy in our search for the one man who will make our lives complete.
The old saying, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a princess” is no longer true. Why kiss frogs when you can read hundreds of profiles and look at the pictures that go with them for a small monthly fee? That saves time and money…not to mention lip burn.
These are a few good reasons to consider online dating:
(1) There is a wide range of men to choose from. You aren’t limited to the men in your social circle or work environment.
(2) You have the opportunity to get to know a lot about a man before you ever contact him for the first time. You will know his age, marital status, what city he lives in, whether he has children, his height/weight and his likes and dislikes all from his profile. You’ll even see a picture of him.
(3) You have a better chance to present yourself in a favorable way. This is especially useful for those of us who are shy. We have time to think about how we want to say things about ourselves and can avoid being tongue tied. Even those who are more extroverted can take time to reflect on who they really are before writing their online profile.
(4) Online dating is certainly a time saver. You can meet so many more men in a lot less time than you ever could out in the real world.
As our lives become busier and busier we need to make better use of our time and energy in our search for the one man who will make our lives complete.
The old saying, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a princess” is no longer true. Why kiss frogs when you can read hundreds of profiles and look at the pictures that go with them for a small monthly fee? That saves time and money…not to mention lip burn.
These are a few good reasons to consider online dating:
(1) There is a wide range of men to choose from. You aren’t limited to the men in your social circle or work environment.
(2) You have the opportunity to get to know a lot about a man before you ever contact him for the first time. You will know his age, marital status, what city he lives in, whether he has children, his height/weight and his likes and dislikes all from his profile. You’ll even see a picture of him.
(3) You have a better chance to present yourself in a favorable way. This is especially useful for those of us who are shy. We have time to think about how we want to say things about ourselves and can avoid being tongue tied. Even those who are more extroverted can take time to reflect on who they really are before writing their online profile.
(4) Online dating is certainly a time saver. You can meet so many more men in a lot less time than you ever could out in the real world.
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