Sunday, August 2, 2009
Monday, June 9, 2008
Sensual Seduction - Hot Tips For Men
Are you unsatisfied with your inability to attract women? Can not remember the last time you had a date? Do not settle for second best, you can transform your rotten luck and learn strategies that will guarantee your success with women.
What many of you do not realize is that 99% of all men use ineffective methods which actually INHIBIT their ability to seduce women.
Online author James reveals how female attraction works, how to successfully meet and approach gorgeous women, and how to flirt and tantalize the fairer sex.
Apply these secrets and be the envy of all your friends! Get beautiful women to fall head-over-heels by applying the techniques that James gives you.
James has created one of the most comprehensive dating advice packages on the internet. Seeing is believing!
It is that easy! Do not waste another minute alone!
Visit: Sensual Seduction And be on your way to dating success!
Aleksandra
About the Author
If you want to feel good about yourself having the confidence and knowledge to attract the women of your dreams then discover hot tips concerning sensual seduction.
Learn Sensual Seduction - It Makes Life Easier.
Sensual Seduction - Hot Tips For Men
What many of you do not realize is that 99% of all men use ineffective methods which actually INHIBIT their ability to seduce women.
Online author James reveals how female attraction works, how to successfully meet and approach gorgeous women, and how to flirt and tantalize the fairer sex.
Apply these secrets and be the envy of all your friends! Get beautiful women to fall head-over-heels by applying the techniques that James gives you.
James has created one of the most comprehensive dating advice packages on the internet. Seeing is believing!
It is that easy! Do not waste another minute alone!
Visit: Sensual Seduction And be on your way to dating success!
Aleksandra
About the Author
If you want to feel good about yourself having the confidence and knowledge to attract the women of your dreams then discover hot tips concerning sensual seduction.
Learn Sensual Seduction - It Makes Life Easier.
Sensual Seduction - Hot Tips For Men
Friday, May 9, 2008
FINDING YOUR SOUL MATE
Lets face it, we all, at some level, dream of that perfect someone. We dream of that man or woman who will come into our lives and chase all those clouds of loneliness away. We want to be with that special person who understands us, adores us, loves us and is one with us. The idea of soul mates is not a new one and could very safely be said to be as old as the history of man himself. There is something within men and women that makes them seek out that special relationship with that special someone; that someone that is supposedly made especially for them. Unfortunately for too many though, the dream of finding their soul mate remains just that, a dream. These days, lots of people are starting to actually abandon this dream. However, the truth is that we really don't have to. Finding our soul mates is a possible and attainable goal when we go about it the right way. In my life as a single person I have had the privilege dating quite a number of wonderful ladies. In the course of all those dates I have come across some truly astounding women and some "ok" women. One of the things that I have come to believe is that we don't really have one soul mate. On the contrary, we have soul mates. Sounds kind of bizarre I know but that has been my experience in life and with women. That is why I don't believe that saying that says love comes only once in a persons life time. In my opinion, love comes more than once. In fact I would say that love comes many times in one's life. Now here is the question. If love comes many times over is there any need to value the love you've found now (especially since they are not perfect) if you could toss it away and find love again (and maybe someone better too) just around the corner? Why not trade the love you've found now for a better one? Well that's the catch. Each love experience is real and is unique. That's great to know actually but that's not the reason why you shouldn't be in a hurry to play around with the love you've found now. The real problem is that I have found that with most people, finding love takes time. In other words while you might always be able to find someone new to love and who loves you back in return, if you let go of your present love, chances are that it could take you anywhere from six months to three years or more to find a new love.
The bottom line is, take good care of the love you find because while you may always be able to find love if you wait long enough, finding true love takes time and too many times time is something we don't have enough of. If you doubt me ask a 55yr old man or woman who is looking for love. In my opinion they really don't have the luxury of dumping their old love in search for a new one just for the fun of it.
Now, enough of the blabbering. How really can one find ones soul mate? Below are outlined some steps that will definitely come in handy in your quest to locate you soul mate.
1. Know who you are
It's essential that you know who you are, know what you want, and know what it would take to satisfy you. In order for you to be adequately able to know what it will take to satisfy you in a mate you have to first have a healthy understanding of who your are. If you do not understand yourself, you will find it difficult to recognize the sort of person who will give you the love and understanding that you seek.
Know your strengths and your weaknesses. When you know this, it becomes easy to be able to identify the sort of person who will compliment you. One of the characteristics of a soul mate is that they compliment you. In other words, they are strong in lots of places in which you are weak.
2. Know what you want
Once you have gotten a good understanding of who you are, (your strengths, weaknesses and all), it becomes easier to recognize and identify the right man or woman for you. To really make this picture of who you want to be with clearer, I would suggest you took out some time to outline at least ten basic characteristics or behavioral and personality traits that your kind of person should have. It's like creating a shopping list. With a well prepared list it becomes easier for you to stay focused when you go "spouse shopping" and not to waste your valuable resources of time, energy and emotions on non-suitable members of the opposite sex.
3. Become better
Too often we neglect to get on with our lives and to achieve our dreams in other areas of our lives because we are too busy waiting for our soul mates; waiting for love. Unknowingly, too many people sabotage their chances of finding their soul mates and true love at that, by this very approach. Everyone loves a winner and the more confident and developed our intellects and our minds are the more attractive we are likely to be to members of the opposite sex. In your search for through love you must resist the temptation to put your life on hold. Don't let go of your dreams because you are too busy waiting for love to find you. Live your dreams instead and achieve your goals. In the process, you will unconsciously attract the love you desire through your new found self confidence.
4. Prepare to meet your soul mate
One of the most important skills we can develop as human beings is the skill of effective communication. Another important skill that we need to learn to help us have more success in our relationships in the skill of conflict resolution. When a couple learns to communicate properly, lots of unnecessary arguments are avoided and life as a couple tends to be much more enjoyable. Don't just sit on your butt doing nothing and waiting for love to find you, prepare to meet your soul mate. Read books, attend seminars, watch T.V program and get as much information as possible on how to build and sustain healthy and fulfilling intimate relationships with members of the opposite sex. Contrary to what the romance novels would make us believe, a good, fulfilling and successful relationship takes work and smart work at that.
You need to know what to do, how to handle conflict and how to get the best out your relationship if you want to avoid getting into unnecessary squabbles or worse still, losing your soul mate to a smarter more informed adversary.
5. Pray
Finally, last but not least, you need to learn to pray. Ok maybe you are not into religion but I must tell you that there is certainly something about meeting that special someone that is clearly divine.
There have been times when I was not very socially active and I have met some truly astounding women; women that could easily pass for my soul mate. On the other hand, there have been other times when I have been out there seriously single and searching but while I managed to meet ten times as much women at such times I have never been able to find a special woman through this approach. What I got when I went all out aggressively searching and depending on my own ability to chat up women was quantity but not quality.
In my experience, while you should not neglect opportunities to prepare to find love or learn the best line or approaches for meeting men or women, it is necessary that you get God involved in your searching if you really want to get it right. I believe that there is at least one right person for everyone on this planet. The challenge however is to get these two well suited people who have been searching for each other since they were both fifteen to meet. The love you seek or have been seeking for the past eight years might just be a few blocks away from you.
The truth is that it's really no use knowing how to sweep women of their feet if you never get the chance to use your skills in wooing the girl of your dreams; your soul mate. You need to get to meet her before you will get the opportunity to woo her. The same goes for a woman. It's no use knowing how to make every man feel attraction for you if you never get the chance to use your charms on the one that fulfills you. Lots of women know how to get a man's attention but unfortunately they have only been able to attract heart breakers and men who do not have their best interests at heart. That's where divine intervention comes in.
If you ask me, it takes divine intervention to orchestrate fate in such a way that two perfect strangers in a park and in the midst of hundreds of other people get the chance to notice each other, to see that glimmer in each others eyes as they stare at each other across the park. To feel their hearts skip a beat as they feel that special sensation start to flow through their veins. To reach out with trusting abandonment for each other as they seek to take hold of that for which they have searched for all their lives. If you ask me, only God can make this happen.
Taire Stephen is an author of several relationships and personal development books including, "Understanding men, understanding women, nice girls don't get Mr. Right, understanding relationships, why men run away from commitment" etc. Email: stephen@tairestephen.com click here www.tairestephen.com/download.php to get my free e-book titled "finding your soul mate" Meet singles online here http://www.something4singles.com You can receive more free tips by email by subscribing to his free newsletter at http://www.tairestephen.com when you sign up as a free member.
© 2008 TAIRE STEPHEN
About the Author
Taire stephen is the author of various including understandnig men and understanding women. website: http://www.tairestephen.com http://www.36states.com email:stephen@tairestephen.com
The bottom line is, take good care of the love you find because while you may always be able to find love if you wait long enough, finding true love takes time and too many times time is something we don't have enough of. If you doubt me ask a 55yr old man or woman who is looking for love. In my opinion they really don't have the luxury of dumping their old love in search for a new one just for the fun of it.
Now, enough of the blabbering. How really can one find ones soul mate? Below are outlined some steps that will definitely come in handy in your quest to locate you soul mate.
1. Know who you are
It's essential that you know who you are, know what you want, and know what it would take to satisfy you. In order for you to be adequately able to know what it will take to satisfy you in a mate you have to first have a healthy understanding of who your are. If you do not understand yourself, you will find it difficult to recognize the sort of person who will give you the love and understanding that you seek.
Know your strengths and your weaknesses. When you know this, it becomes easy to be able to identify the sort of person who will compliment you. One of the characteristics of a soul mate is that they compliment you. In other words, they are strong in lots of places in which you are weak.
2. Know what you want
Once you have gotten a good understanding of who you are, (your strengths, weaknesses and all), it becomes easier to recognize and identify the right man or woman for you. To really make this picture of who you want to be with clearer, I would suggest you took out some time to outline at least ten basic characteristics or behavioral and personality traits that your kind of person should have. It's like creating a shopping list. With a well prepared list it becomes easier for you to stay focused when you go "spouse shopping" and not to waste your valuable resources of time, energy and emotions on non-suitable members of the opposite sex.
3. Become better
Too often we neglect to get on with our lives and to achieve our dreams in other areas of our lives because we are too busy waiting for our soul mates; waiting for love. Unknowingly, too many people sabotage their chances of finding their soul mates and true love at that, by this very approach. Everyone loves a winner and the more confident and developed our intellects and our minds are the more attractive we are likely to be to members of the opposite sex. In your search for through love you must resist the temptation to put your life on hold. Don't let go of your dreams because you are too busy waiting for love to find you. Live your dreams instead and achieve your goals. In the process, you will unconsciously attract the love you desire through your new found self confidence.
4. Prepare to meet your soul mate
One of the most important skills we can develop as human beings is the skill of effective communication. Another important skill that we need to learn to help us have more success in our relationships in the skill of conflict resolution. When a couple learns to communicate properly, lots of unnecessary arguments are avoided and life as a couple tends to be much more enjoyable. Don't just sit on your butt doing nothing and waiting for love to find you, prepare to meet your soul mate. Read books, attend seminars, watch T.V program and get as much information as possible on how to build and sustain healthy and fulfilling intimate relationships with members of the opposite sex. Contrary to what the romance novels would make us believe, a good, fulfilling and successful relationship takes work and smart work at that.
You need to know what to do, how to handle conflict and how to get the best out your relationship if you want to avoid getting into unnecessary squabbles or worse still, losing your soul mate to a smarter more informed adversary.
5. Pray
Finally, last but not least, you need to learn to pray. Ok maybe you are not into religion but I must tell you that there is certainly something about meeting that special someone that is clearly divine.
There have been times when I was not very socially active and I have met some truly astounding women; women that could easily pass for my soul mate. On the other hand, there have been other times when I have been out there seriously single and searching but while I managed to meet ten times as much women at such times I have never been able to find a special woman through this approach. What I got when I went all out aggressively searching and depending on my own ability to chat up women was quantity but not quality.
In my experience, while you should not neglect opportunities to prepare to find love or learn the best line or approaches for meeting men or women, it is necessary that you get God involved in your searching if you really want to get it right. I believe that there is at least one right person for everyone on this planet. The challenge however is to get these two well suited people who have been searching for each other since they were both fifteen to meet. The love you seek or have been seeking for the past eight years might just be a few blocks away from you.
The truth is that it's really no use knowing how to sweep women of their feet if you never get the chance to use your skills in wooing the girl of your dreams; your soul mate. You need to get to meet her before you will get the opportunity to woo her. The same goes for a woman. It's no use knowing how to make every man feel attraction for you if you never get the chance to use your charms on the one that fulfills you. Lots of women know how to get a man's attention but unfortunately they have only been able to attract heart breakers and men who do not have their best interests at heart. That's where divine intervention comes in.
If you ask me, it takes divine intervention to orchestrate fate in such a way that two perfect strangers in a park and in the midst of hundreds of other people get the chance to notice each other, to see that glimmer in each others eyes as they stare at each other across the park. To feel their hearts skip a beat as they feel that special sensation start to flow through their veins. To reach out with trusting abandonment for each other as they seek to take hold of that for which they have searched for all their lives. If you ask me, only God can make this happen.
Taire Stephen is an author of several relationships and personal development books including, "Understanding men, understanding women, nice girls don't get Mr. Right, understanding relationships, why men run away from commitment" etc. Email: stephen@tairestephen.com click here www.tairestephen.com/download.php to get my free e-book titled "finding your soul mate" Meet singles online here http://www.something4singles.com You can receive more free tips by email by subscribing to his free newsletter at http://www.tairestephen.com when you sign up as a free member.
© 2008 TAIRE STEPHEN
About the Author
Taire stephen is the author of various including understandnig men and understanding women. website: http://www.tairestephen.com http://www.36states.com email:stephen@tairestephen.com
Wednesday, May 7, 2008
Increase Your Luck At Finding The Best Dating Site For You
With so many online dating sites, you really need to figure out which site/s will be the best dating site for you!
First, see what each site has to offer. Make a note...
Then from your notes join the site/s that has the most generous free trial offer.
You can also increase your luck at finding the best dating site by checking out each of the sites you are interested in. Try to find the sites that will allow you full access during your free trial.
Full access will allow you to browse all of the members, not only will you be able to receive emails you will also be able to send emails! You will be surprised at the online dating sites that will allow you to receive emails but you can't respond during your free trial!
So, by now you have selected a few sites you want to join on a free trial bases. You will want to keep notes as you browse. Whenever you find a Single you would like to get to know, write down the site name and the members User Name.
You will be able to increase your luck at finding the best dating site for you by reviewing your notes. When you are ready to join a dating site, consider the site that produced the best results for you.
It should ideally be the site that has the most members that have caught your attention.
Take your time when searching for the best dating site. You will be glad you did!
About the Author
Vivian has been involved with online dating since it's inception! This is her main dating forum, since there is no other place in the world where you can have access to millions of eligible singles!
Do you know how to Find, Catch & Keep the love of your life in 7 days? If not, please get your copy of:
For A Limited Time Only - Free Internet Dating Course ($27.00 Value) http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
First, see what each site has to offer. Make a note...
Then from your notes join the site/s that has the most generous free trial offer.
You can also increase your luck at finding the best dating site by checking out each of the sites you are interested in. Try to find the sites that will allow you full access during your free trial.
Full access will allow you to browse all of the members, not only will you be able to receive emails you will also be able to send emails! You will be surprised at the online dating sites that will allow you to receive emails but you can't respond during your free trial!
So, by now you have selected a few sites you want to join on a free trial bases. You will want to keep notes as you browse. Whenever you find a Single you would like to get to know, write down the site name and the members User Name.
You will be able to increase your luck at finding the best dating site for you by reviewing your notes. When you are ready to join a dating site, consider the site that produced the best results for you.
It should ideally be the site that has the most members that have caught your attention.
Take your time when searching for the best dating site. You will be glad you did!
About the Author
Vivian has been involved with online dating since it's inception! This is her main dating forum, since there is no other place in the world where you can have access to millions of eligible singles!
Do you know how to Find, Catch & Keep the love of your life in 7 days? If not, please get your copy of:
For A Limited Time Only - Free Internet Dating Course ($27.00 Value) http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
Thursday, April 3, 2008
Why do people date online? Psychology of online dating
Here is a list of reasons why men and women date online. Taken from http://www.PinayDating.tk Read on to learn the psychology of online dating.
It's anonymous / Secret
Most people like anonymity whether male or female.
Some men like to date on the net because they will not get caught by their girlfriend if ever they do it. Some men also believe that they can get more girls by dating online.
The above mentioned information is true with some women as well, they would like to meet new people in order to have more fun.
And most of all you could use an alias so that people will not know who you are. You can practically have a second identity online and your friends will never know.
Safe / cyber sex
Yes internet or online dating is safe up to some extent, online sex is safe because there is no physical contact initially, and there is no face to face intimidation. But if you start to meet people offline that's a totally different story.
Easy
The internet made a lot of things easier, it's been easier to send out letters to your love ones, to look for a new job, to book for an airline ticket, to look for a scholarship, to get a loan, and of course to get a date.
Stimulates the imagination
Dating on line gives some people the sense of being accepted or loved even if they don't really see or touch the person they are talking to. Most of the time, kind and loving words is what most people are longing for in a relationship, and that is exactly what they get when they go dating online. That's why some are even addicted to online dating.
It's an escape
For some people dating online is a form of an escape from a boring day at work or from a nagging wife. It also gives some people an alter world where they could explore themselves and their inner thoughts and feelings. So just like reading a very romantic pocket book or novel, online dating is very attractive and stimulating for those who would like to escape from harsh realities of their offline lives.
Is online dating really safe?
Yes it is, as long as you don't give out the following information on the net.
Your real name [You should not give your real name on the Internet whether in chat rooms or forums. Remember that there are a lot of online resources that you could go to, to find out who a person is. There are paid and free sources on the Internet where you could get vital information about a person, like a person's address, phone numbers or previous employers. So don't give out your real name to a stranger]
Phone numbers [Never give this out to strangers. So why would you give it to someone on the Internet, even if you've been talking to that person for several months or years you still have to be cautious, never give out your phone numbers specially your landline number.]
Email address [If you want to give out your email address make sure that it's not your personal email, it should just be secondary email you don't want to spammed or harassed ]
Your exact location [Don't give out your exact address or even the landmark where your house is located, you will be amazed how many people got into trouble by giving out a hint where they are located.]
Where to meet good people?
It's not always easy to find good people on the Internet, even paying for your membership is not an assurance that you will get good, kind and beautiful people online, but I found a very reliable site where people meet to chat or simply leave comments in their forums. It's http://www.PinayDating.tk this is a totally free site for people who would like to be safe on the net.
About the Author
Ollie Style is a writer / podcaster. You could read more of his articles at his blog - http://olliestyle.blogspot.com - He supports http://pinaydating.tk
It's anonymous / Secret
Most people like anonymity whether male or female.
Some men like to date on the net because they will not get caught by their girlfriend if ever they do it. Some men also believe that they can get more girls by dating online.
The above mentioned information is true with some women as well, they would like to meet new people in order to have more fun.
And most of all you could use an alias so that people will not know who you are. You can practically have a second identity online and your friends will never know.
Safe / cyber sex
Yes internet or online dating is safe up to some extent, online sex is safe because there is no physical contact initially, and there is no face to face intimidation. But if you start to meet people offline that's a totally different story.
Easy
The internet made a lot of things easier, it's been easier to send out letters to your love ones, to look for a new job, to book for an airline ticket, to look for a scholarship, to get a loan, and of course to get a date.
Stimulates the imagination
Dating on line gives some people the sense of being accepted or loved even if they don't really see or touch the person they are talking to. Most of the time, kind and loving words is what most people are longing for in a relationship, and that is exactly what they get when they go dating online. That's why some are even addicted to online dating.
It's an escape
For some people dating online is a form of an escape from a boring day at work or from a nagging wife. It also gives some people an alter world where they could explore themselves and their inner thoughts and feelings. So just like reading a very romantic pocket book or novel, online dating is very attractive and stimulating for those who would like to escape from harsh realities of their offline lives.
Is online dating really safe?
Yes it is, as long as you don't give out the following information on the net.
Your real name [You should not give your real name on the Internet whether in chat rooms or forums. Remember that there are a lot of online resources that you could go to, to find out who a person is. There are paid and free sources on the Internet where you could get vital information about a person, like a person's address, phone numbers or previous employers. So don't give out your real name to a stranger]
Phone numbers [Never give this out to strangers. So why would you give it to someone on the Internet, even if you've been talking to that person for several months or years you still have to be cautious, never give out your phone numbers specially your landline number.]
Email address [If you want to give out your email address make sure that it's not your personal email, it should just be secondary email you don't want to spammed or harassed ]
Your exact location [Don't give out your exact address or even the landmark where your house is located, you will be amazed how many people got into trouble by giving out a hint where they are located.]
Where to meet good people?
It's not always easy to find good people on the Internet, even paying for your membership is not an assurance that you will get good, kind and beautiful people online, but I found a very reliable site where people meet to chat or simply leave comments in their forums. It's http://www.PinayDating.tk this is a totally free site for people who would like to be safe on the net.
About the Author
Ollie Style is a writer / podcaster. You could read more of his articles at his blog - http://olliestyle.blogspot.com - He supports http://pinaydating.tk
Friday, March 28, 2008
Mistakes Most Singles Make Online
As singles, we are more than aware of the mistakes we make offline! But now we are on a different turf! The mistakes that most singles make online are...
Trying to come across as being too sexy or too much of a stud. For some reason, we believe that will attract more of the opposite sex. It will attract more of the opposite sex, but the "quality" of the singles you attract may not be the types of singles you would want to form a relationship with. It is usually better to be more selective when it comes to sharing the "sexual" side of ourselves online.
Another mistake, is not posting a photo. Maybe you don't want your ex, family, or co-workers to think you are that "desperate". It has nothing to do with desperation.
Whenever I see a profile without a photo, I always wonder why. In my mind, I automatically decide this person is trying to hide or they are very unattractive. If you feel you have to "hide" and "sneak" around on the internet to find your love interest? Then you really are not ready for internet dating yet.
Single women usually make the mistake of talking too much about their children. We don't have to convince the world we are the number one mom! This is not the forum for that. In the beginning, acknowledging that you have children is more than enough information.
Gentlemen commonly make the mistake of "show casing" their possessions and financial worth. Then they get a little confused when they continuously attract "gold diggers"!
If we try to avoid just these mistakes online, we will have better results!
Put yourself in position to "choose"...not always waiting to be "chosen"!
Do you believe you deserve the person of your dreams? If so, get the skills you need to bring your dreams into reality Today!
Free For A Limited Time - ($27.00 value!) Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
About the Author
Hi, I'm Vivian Johnson. I have been involved with internet dating since it's inception. I think it is great! It is the only place in the world where you can find millions of eligible singles...all in one place! There are only a couple of things you need to know...
Let's start here: Free For A Limited Time Only! ($27.00 value)
Get your Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
Trying to come across as being too sexy or too much of a stud. For some reason, we believe that will attract more of the opposite sex. It will attract more of the opposite sex, but the "quality" of the singles you attract may not be the types of singles you would want to form a relationship with. It is usually better to be more selective when it comes to sharing the "sexual" side of ourselves online.
Another mistake, is not posting a photo. Maybe you don't want your ex, family, or co-workers to think you are that "desperate". It has nothing to do with desperation.
Whenever I see a profile without a photo, I always wonder why. In my mind, I automatically decide this person is trying to hide or they are very unattractive. If you feel you have to "hide" and "sneak" around on the internet to find your love interest? Then you really are not ready for internet dating yet.
Single women usually make the mistake of talking too much about their children. We don't have to convince the world we are the number one mom! This is not the forum for that. In the beginning, acknowledging that you have children is more than enough information.
Gentlemen commonly make the mistake of "show casing" their possessions and financial worth. Then they get a little confused when they continuously attract "gold diggers"!
If we try to avoid just these mistakes online, we will have better results!
Put yourself in position to "choose"...not always waiting to be "chosen"!
Do you believe you deserve the person of your dreams? If so, get the skills you need to bring your dreams into reality Today!
Free For A Limited Time - ($27.00 value!) Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
About the Author
Hi, I'm Vivian Johnson. I have been involved with internet dating since it's inception. I think it is great! It is the only place in the world where you can find millions of eligible singles...all in one place! There are only a couple of things you need to know...
Let's start here: Free For A Limited Time Only! ($27.00 value)
Get your Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
Wednesday, March 26, 2008
3 Keys To Finding Your Love Online
To go about finding your love online, it helps to have all of tools necessary from the beginning.
First, take your time finding the right site for you. You have so many choices! If you can imagine it? There is a site out there for it! If you narrow your site choices down to two or three? Try all three of them! Use the exact same profile to save yourself a little time. You may find one site will produce better results than others! Then when you decide to join a dating site, pick the one that worked the best for you!
Second, once you have chosen your site/s, you need to set up your profile. Here is where a lot of people try and take short cuts. Trust me...that is a huge mistake. Your profile is your online “faceâ€. You want to be seen in the best possible light. You are wasting your time if you do not do this. It is difficult to find your love online if they can’t “see†who you are. Not only should there be a photo on your profile, there should also be a “part†of “you†in your profile essay. If you have a really unusual hobby, mention it. If you love poetry...include a passage from one of your most favorite poems.
Third, if you want to find your love online, you need to know exactly who you are looking for, and the type of character traits they must have. So many people claim they know exactly who and what they are looking for. But they get themselves involved with any and every body. There are too many people online...make your choices carefully!
The key to finding your love online is: select your site carefully, put your best “face†forward, and be sure you know who you are looking for!
Put yourself in position to “chooseâ€...not always waiting to be “chosenâ€!
Do you believe you deserve the person of your dreams? If so, get the skills you need to bring your dreams into reality Today!
Free For A Limited Time â€" ($27.00 value!)
Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
About the Author
Hi, I’m Vivian Johnson. I have been involved with internet dating since it’s inception. I think it is great! It is the only place in the world where you can find millions of eligible singles...all in one place! There are only a couple of things you need to know...
Let’s start here: Free For A Limited Time Only! ($27.00 value) Get your Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
First, take your time finding the right site for you. You have so many choices! If you can imagine it? There is a site out there for it! If you narrow your site choices down to two or three? Try all three of them! Use the exact same profile to save yourself a little time. You may find one site will produce better results than others! Then when you decide to join a dating site, pick the one that worked the best for you!
Second, once you have chosen your site/s, you need to set up your profile. Here is where a lot of people try and take short cuts. Trust me...that is a huge mistake. Your profile is your online “faceâ€. You want to be seen in the best possible light. You are wasting your time if you do not do this. It is difficult to find your love online if they can’t “see†who you are. Not only should there be a photo on your profile, there should also be a “part†of “you†in your profile essay. If you have a really unusual hobby, mention it. If you love poetry...include a passage from one of your most favorite poems.
Third, if you want to find your love online, you need to know exactly who you are looking for, and the type of character traits they must have. So many people claim they know exactly who and what they are looking for. But they get themselves involved with any and every body. There are too many people online...make your choices carefully!
The key to finding your love online is: select your site carefully, put your best “face†forward, and be sure you know who you are looking for!
Put yourself in position to “chooseâ€...not always waiting to be “chosenâ€!
Do you believe you deserve the person of your dreams? If so, get the skills you need to bring your dreams into reality Today!
Free For A Limited Time â€" ($27.00 value!)
Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
About the Author
Hi, I’m Vivian Johnson. I have been involved with internet dating since it’s inception. I think it is great! It is the only place in the world where you can find millions of eligible singles...all in one place! There are only a couple of things you need to know...
Let’s start here: Free For A Limited Time Only! ($27.00 value) Get your Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
Monday, March 10, 2008
Adult dating - there is safety in numbers
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Sunday, March 2, 2008
What Does It Take To Find Love Online?
Stop and think about it...What does it take to find love online?
Believe it or not, internet dating isn’t for everyone. Many people need to accept that.
I have had conversations with both men and women. I am stunned at the number of people that believe they are in love...totally in love, after a exchanging a few emails and a couple of I.M. sessions. I think they are so tired of being alone, they latch onto this new person like a life line.
If you act out of desperation, you are choosing to ignore issues that will continue to slap you in the face:
Emails not being answered promptly. Phone calls not being returned at night and on the week ends. Your “love interest†refusing to give more information about themselves. Their emotions switch back and forth...from hot to cold and back again.
Now is the time to shut the “relationship†down. There are a few too many red flags. Before even meeting this person, he is already putting you through emotional changes! You should refuse to accept or tolerate it. Don’t you deserve better? I think so...
Whether you have what it takes to find love online or not, there are certain ground rules that must be adhered to. Don’t share them with your new “love interestâ€. Until you are sure you can trust this person, it would be like giving a robber your house key.
Will you accept the fact that most people online are not willing to commit to a monogamous relationship? Even though they will give you the impression that they are totally committed to you? (They are hoping you will take your profile down, and take yourself off the online singles market.)
Will you accept the fact that the person you are interested in, continues to pursue other people online? (Basically, they are still “shopping†for a better deal! But, they will be back if they can’t find one!)
Will you accept the fact, that at least 50% of their profile is probably a lie? Maybe they are small lies, or maybe they are much larger lies.
If you are unable to honestly say yes to all three of those questions, you may not have what it takes to find love online.
About the Author
I have been involved in online dating since the very beginning, and I have had a blast!
Find out more and arm yourself with a few online dating skills.
Online Dating Skills - Works Very Well Offline Too!
For A Limited Time Only - 3 Free Online Dating Reports
http://www.realinternetdating411.com/freereports.html
For more dating tools, take an actual peek at the chapters in Real Internet Dating 411.
http://www.realinternetdating411.com
Believe it or not, internet dating isn’t for everyone. Many people need to accept that.
I have had conversations with both men and women. I am stunned at the number of people that believe they are in love...totally in love, after a exchanging a few emails and a couple of I.M. sessions. I think they are so tired of being alone, they latch onto this new person like a life line.
If you act out of desperation, you are choosing to ignore issues that will continue to slap you in the face:
Emails not being answered promptly. Phone calls not being returned at night and on the week ends. Your “love interest†refusing to give more information about themselves. Their emotions switch back and forth...from hot to cold and back again.
Now is the time to shut the “relationship†down. There are a few too many red flags. Before even meeting this person, he is already putting you through emotional changes! You should refuse to accept or tolerate it. Don’t you deserve better? I think so...
Whether you have what it takes to find love online or not, there are certain ground rules that must be adhered to. Don’t share them with your new “love interestâ€. Until you are sure you can trust this person, it would be like giving a robber your house key.
Will you accept the fact that most people online are not willing to commit to a monogamous relationship? Even though they will give you the impression that they are totally committed to you? (They are hoping you will take your profile down, and take yourself off the online singles market.)
Will you accept the fact that the person you are interested in, continues to pursue other people online? (Basically, they are still “shopping†for a better deal! But, they will be back if they can’t find one!)
Will you accept the fact, that at least 50% of their profile is probably a lie? Maybe they are small lies, or maybe they are much larger lies.
If you are unable to honestly say yes to all three of those questions, you may not have what it takes to find love online.
About the Author
I have been involved in online dating since the very beginning, and I have had a blast!
Find out more and arm yourself with a few online dating skills.
Online Dating Skills - Works Very Well Offline Too!
For A Limited Time Only - 3 Free Online Dating Reports
http://www.realinternetdating411.com/freereports.html
For more dating tools, take an actual peek at the chapters in Real Internet Dating 411.
http://www.realinternetdating411.com
Thursday, November 29, 2007
Is Online Dating That Much Fun
Online dating is fun because you can meet and talk to as many people as you like. If you find a few to continue an online relationship with, you do not have to disclose this information to anyone. This makes it easy for you to explore different avenues when looking for a companion. You might want someone as a friend, but want someone else for a relationship. Online dating can be adventurous and exciting. You might even compare it to a popular television show "The Dating Game". It is the same thing except you make the rules and only meet the person that you want.
Many online dating sites have an area where you can sign up and pick people from the list to correspond with, this makes it easier to find some people that have similar interests and feel the same way about things that you do. Online dating can be fun because the people are interesting and you meet a mixture of people. You might find out that someone has an interest that you would like to try. The thing about online dating is you have to take it slow. Online dating is not like going out on a blind date, you are meeting people you may not have ever thought about for a relationship.
Building friendships is the only way to have a successful online dating experience. Many people join online dating sites to make friends. You never know if someone wants a relationship or a friendship. Besides the online dating sites, there are the social networking sites, but these are different from dating sites. You do not have the ability to protect your personal information or that of your friends as you do with a dating site. Even so, these sites are fun for meeting new people and getting a good conversation going.
Even though the sites are secure, you need to be careful about who you meet and give your information to before getting to know the person. Some people can spend hours conversing with others while others pick just one person at a time. You can still meet people from your area or people from far away. If you are looking to relocate or have relocated, online dating is a good way to meet new people. You can look for people in your area or the surrounding area for a possible relationship or just for friendships.
Some people have a hard time meeting new people for the first time and carrying on a conversation, but online or a on a phone, people can open up and talk. This is another great aspect of online dating. If you are a little shy, you can establish a communication with someone and that helps ease the tension of a first time meeting. When you get to know people online, you can choose the time to divulge information or remain anonymous. I am sure that You will find dating even more fun when you meet people through an online dating service.
About the Author
If you need strong advice on how to date online then please visit our online dating site. Also take a look at our article section if you want some quick online dating tips.
Many online dating sites have an area where you can sign up and pick people from the list to correspond with, this makes it easier to find some people that have similar interests and feel the same way about things that you do. Online dating can be fun because the people are interesting and you meet a mixture of people. You might find out that someone has an interest that you would like to try. The thing about online dating is you have to take it slow. Online dating is not like going out on a blind date, you are meeting people you may not have ever thought about for a relationship.
Building friendships is the only way to have a successful online dating experience. Many people join online dating sites to make friends. You never know if someone wants a relationship or a friendship. Besides the online dating sites, there are the social networking sites, but these are different from dating sites. You do not have the ability to protect your personal information or that of your friends as you do with a dating site. Even so, these sites are fun for meeting new people and getting a good conversation going.
Even though the sites are secure, you need to be careful about who you meet and give your information to before getting to know the person. Some people can spend hours conversing with others while others pick just one person at a time. You can still meet people from your area or people from far away. If you are looking to relocate or have relocated, online dating is a good way to meet new people. You can look for people in your area or the surrounding area for a possible relationship or just for friendships.
Some people have a hard time meeting new people for the first time and carrying on a conversation, but online or a on a phone, people can open up and talk. This is another great aspect of online dating. If you are a little shy, you can establish a communication with someone and that helps ease the tension of a first time meeting. When you get to know people online, you can choose the time to divulge information or remain anonymous. I am sure that You will find dating even more fun when you meet people through an online dating service.
About the Author
If you need strong advice on how to date online then please visit our online dating site. Also take a look at our article section if you want some quick online dating tips.
Dangers of Online Dating - Six Ways To Keep Yourself Safe In Cyberspace
Internet dating is becoming a lot more mainstream, as folks from every walk of life connect and find their soul mate in cyberspace. So how do you protect yourself while trying to meet new people you may wish to date? Here are six tips to finding that special somebody while still preserving your privacy and safety online.
1. Avoid huge, public chat rooms where anything can (and usually does!) happen. Some users frequent these areas just to see what they can get away with. Instead, choose smaller, more targeted web internet sites or chat rooms that match your interests or life-style. There are many internet dating sites that cater to particular hobbies and several offer free trial memberships.
2. Once you find a chat room, dating site, or forum that meets your interest, introduce yourself with only as much information as you feel comfortable presenting. Do not plaster your telephone number, address or any other private information on the site. Hold off until you encounter somebody with whom you truly "click" and have talked to them for a while. Common sense and that "gut feeling" are outstanding indicators for when something just does not feel quite right.
3. Participate in the discussion board or chat room on a regular basis. Keep it "low-key" until you begin making friendships with the regular members there. Be honest, and be yourself - after all, being natural is what will endear you to a particular partner.
4. Keep your correspondence confined to e-mail and chat until you get to know the individual well enough to feel comfortable sharing your phone number and speaking for the first time. If you need a good ice-breaker, begin the chat by discussing the forum or chat room where you met and any particular interests that brought you together.
5. If you choose to meet one another in person, choose a neutral, public place. You may even choose a town or city that is not the same as the one where you dwell. Restaurants, parks, theaters and other public locates where folks meet frequently are a good place to begin. Alternately, you could decide to attend a special event in your area together, possibly a concert, festival or fair. Either way, let family or friends know where you are going and who you are going with, as well as what time you will be coming back so they will know how and where to contact you.
6. If you are interested in several online "matches" that come your way, look at setting up a post office box and a free e-mail account to share information with each other. That way, if you come to discover that you really do not "click" with this individual, you will not feel as though you have given any personal contact information away.
If you stick with these six tips, chances are you will have a wonderful time with your cyber date. Remember to be honest and be yourself! If you do, probabilities are that you will discover that idealized special somebody who relishes you for who you are! Oh, and you will be having a lot of fun too, while keeping yourself safe online.
About the Author
Kelly Jones, better known as blushgirl has been in the online dating scene since 1996. Her experience in the field helps her answer questions on romance and relationships for her site visitors and allows her to meticulously review dating and matchmaking sites. Kelly has provided a guide to the best online dating sites on the Internet right now at: http://www.squidoo.com/adult-dating-sites
1. Avoid huge, public chat rooms where anything can (and usually does!) happen. Some users frequent these areas just to see what they can get away with. Instead, choose smaller, more targeted web internet sites or chat rooms that match your interests or life-style. There are many internet dating sites that cater to particular hobbies and several offer free trial memberships.
2. Once you find a chat room, dating site, or forum that meets your interest, introduce yourself with only as much information as you feel comfortable presenting. Do not plaster your telephone number, address or any other private information on the site. Hold off until you encounter somebody with whom you truly "click" and have talked to them for a while. Common sense and that "gut feeling" are outstanding indicators for when something just does not feel quite right.
3. Participate in the discussion board or chat room on a regular basis. Keep it "low-key" until you begin making friendships with the regular members there. Be honest, and be yourself - after all, being natural is what will endear you to a particular partner.
4. Keep your correspondence confined to e-mail and chat until you get to know the individual well enough to feel comfortable sharing your phone number and speaking for the first time. If you need a good ice-breaker, begin the chat by discussing the forum or chat room where you met and any particular interests that brought you together.
5. If you choose to meet one another in person, choose a neutral, public place. You may even choose a town or city that is not the same as the one where you dwell. Restaurants, parks, theaters and other public locates where folks meet frequently are a good place to begin. Alternately, you could decide to attend a special event in your area together, possibly a concert, festival or fair. Either way, let family or friends know where you are going and who you are going with, as well as what time you will be coming back so they will know how and where to contact you.
6. If you are interested in several online "matches" that come your way, look at setting up a post office box and a free e-mail account to share information with each other. That way, if you come to discover that you really do not "click" with this individual, you will not feel as though you have given any personal contact information away.
If you stick with these six tips, chances are you will have a wonderful time with your cyber date. Remember to be honest and be yourself! If you do, probabilities are that you will discover that idealized special somebody who relishes you for who you are! Oh, and you will be having a lot of fun too, while keeping yourself safe online.
About the Author
Kelly Jones, better known as blushgirl has been in the online dating scene since 1996. Her experience in the field helps her answer questions on romance and relationships for her site visitors and allows her to meticulously review dating and matchmaking sites. Kelly has provided a guide to the best online dating sites on the Internet right now at: http://www.squidoo.com/adult-dating-sites
Friday, October 19, 2007
Seven Ways To Create Deep Attraction Using Conversation
It has been said that "awareness" is that time between naps. Many unsuspecting people are exposed to communication and seduction techniques that are clearly structured in the exact same way hypnotists use to put people to "sleep."
Too often when people speak to one another, all they're doing is downloading information onto each other. It is easy to talk to someone for hours and hours without entering into a genuine relationship with him or her. Worse, they're often doing it as "just the facts Maam/Sir" - feeling pressured to find out what "we have in common before we waste more time". This tendency to simply exchange stats stops conversation rather than keeps it going.
A conversation is more than an information exchange; to converse, you have to make a conscious effort to connect human-to-human, individual to individual, man to woman. If you're looking for something deeper and more involved, these suggestions will improve you ability to really connect with the opposite sex:
1. Avoid offering solutions (including giving advice or sympathy) - When people open up to share their true emotions and desires they are not doing it because they want to be told what to do about a problem. Sometimes, it's best to just ask more questions, using their own experience and let them talk. Sometimes all people want is to be heard.
2. Acknowledge the other person's feelings, experience or comment before sharing a similar experience or making a contribution of your own. It's reassuring to the other person and creates a sense of solidarity or closeness.
3. Be involved, animated and excited - Avoid wearing one single look and using one monotonous voice to bore the other person into tears, all in the name of conversation. To be interesting and unpredictable, use facial expressions to create moods, vary your voice to create different characters etc.
4. Use suggestive spaces - Don't talk too much and at greater length leaving the other person feeling that he or she did not have the opportunity to speak. If you say something, it must be a prod for the other person to join in. The best use of suggestive spaces is in "call-and -response" conversation where you use humour, puzzles and phrases that draw in the other person to participate.
5. Tell stories that are deeply meaningful to you - Most people try to tell stories that are supposedly funny just to entertain the other person; this is good but not enough. Stories that are from your heart (funny or not) are more likely to create a heart-to-heart-connection. When you tell your story make it in the present tense. The present tense puts the listener inside the story. It implies that the story does not belong to you alone, but to you and the person listening--you are experiencing it together.
6. Engage in witty repartee - Use the surprise element or "shock" effect to create pleasurable anticipation (not uneasiness); use his or her own words or phrases, twist and turn them around, and pretend to misinterpret and misconstrue what he or she is saying - but make sure he or she knows you are just being playful and not hurtful.
7. Accept disruptions and encourage disagreement - Take more interest in understanding where he or she is coming from rather than trying to achieve agreement or to change his or her mind . People feel closer to you when they feel listened to and treated well.
By simply changing how you engage in conversation, you can dramatically change the chemistry. If you are looking for more ways to seduce a man or woman using conversation, visit my websites for intriguing and unconventional ways of seducing and creating deep and lasting attraction.
About the Author
About the Author: Christine Akiteng, Internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of ebook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness� helps men and women cultivate that NATURAL EASE that draws the opposite sex in - without the mental stress and emotional frustration of today's dating dynamics.
Christine's websites: http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com and http://www.theartofseducingoutoffullness.com
Too often when people speak to one another, all they're doing is downloading information onto each other. It is easy to talk to someone for hours and hours without entering into a genuine relationship with him or her. Worse, they're often doing it as "just the facts Maam/Sir" - feeling pressured to find out what "we have in common before we waste more time". This tendency to simply exchange stats stops conversation rather than keeps it going.
A conversation is more than an information exchange; to converse, you have to make a conscious effort to connect human-to-human, individual to individual, man to woman. If you're looking for something deeper and more involved, these suggestions will improve you ability to really connect with the opposite sex:
1. Avoid offering solutions (including giving advice or sympathy) - When people open up to share their true emotions and desires they are not doing it because they want to be told what to do about a problem. Sometimes, it's best to just ask more questions, using their own experience and let them talk. Sometimes all people want is to be heard.
2. Acknowledge the other person's feelings, experience or comment before sharing a similar experience or making a contribution of your own. It's reassuring to the other person and creates a sense of solidarity or closeness.
3. Be involved, animated and excited - Avoid wearing one single look and using one monotonous voice to bore the other person into tears, all in the name of conversation. To be interesting and unpredictable, use facial expressions to create moods, vary your voice to create different characters etc.
4. Use suggestive spaces - Don't talk too much and at greater length leaving the other person feeling that he or she did not have the opportunity to speak. If you say something, it must be a prod for the other person to join in. The best use of suggestive spaces is in "call-and -response" conversation where you use humour, puzzles and phrases that draw in the other person to participate.
5. Tell stories that are deeply meaningful to you - Most people try to tell stories that are supposedly funny just to entertain the other person; this is good but not enough. Stories that are from your heart (funny or not) are more likely to create a heart-to-heart-connection. When you tell your story make it in the present tense. The present tense puts the listener inside the story. It implies that the story does not belong to you alone, but to you and the person listening--you are experiencing it together.
6. Engage in witty repartee - Use the surprise element or "shock" effect to create pleasurable anticipation (not uneasiness); use his or her own words or phrases, twist and turn them around, and pretend to misinterpret and misconstrue what he or she is saying - but make sure he or she knows you are just being playful and not hurtful.
7. Accept disruptions and encourage disagreement - Take more interest in understanding where he or she is coming from rather than trying to achieve agreement or to change his or her mind . People feel closer to you when they feel listened to and treated well.
By simply changing how you engage in conversation, you can dramatically change the chemistry. If you are looking for more ways to seduce a man or woman using conversation, visit my websites for intriguing and unconventional ways of seducing and creating deep and lasting attraction.
About the Author
About the Author: Christine Akiteng, Internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of ebook: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness� helps men and women cultivate that NATURAL EASE that draws the opposite sex in - without the mental stress and emotional frustration of today's dating dynamics.
Christine's websites: http://www.torontosnumber1datedoctor.com and http://www.theartofseducingoutoffullness.com
Thursday, October 18, 2007
Dating Online For Singles
Internet dating is probably the best thing to happen to singles. Years ago, being single meant trawling bars, chatting up colleagues, singles clubs and of course the well meaning friends who would try and set you up with their other single friend. I even read an article in a newspaper a few years ago about how supermarkets were the best places to get a date. Nowadays, all of the above are redundant methods of meeting a partner. Online dating has gone mainstream, and if you are thinking of checking it out, this article may convince you to take action.
Online dating works by virtue of their being thousands of other members of pretty much every site you think about joining. Most of these people upload photographs of themselves, so you can see what they look like as well as get some idea of their personality by reading their profile. The more members there are, the more likely it is that you will meet someone you may want to have a relationship with. If you are new to internet dating, you should probably go with one of the larger more established dating sites as they will have more members than the more specialised niche dating sites.
Girls tend to get more interest on dating sites than guys do, so for this reason it is important that you pay special attention to your profile. If you wouldn't date someone 10 years older than you, then set your age range accordingly. Otherwise you will get emails from people who you would not want to go out with. Its only polite to answer emails, so unless you want to spend your time sending rejection emails then make your profile as refined as possible.
If you send messages to people you like, and reply to messages sent to you, it won't be too long before you are actually going on dates. Try and get to know the person as well as possible online before you meet them offline. This helps you to filter out the people who you know you won't like. There is no point in going on a series of first dates with people you aren't compatible with. This will only serve to give you a negative impression of online dating.
Dating online for singles can be a huge amount of fun, and it's a great way to meet other singles. There is no need to be depressed about being single anymore, online dating works and if you are prepared to commit some time to you will surely succeed.
About the Author
Julie Westbrook is an expert in the field of Internet Dating, and has recently launched a new site at http://www.Internet-Dating-Lowdown.com which aims to cover all aspects of the online dating experience for both men and women. Can't decide which dating site to go for? Why not try http://www.best-internet-dating-site.com
Online dating works by virtue of their being thousands of other members of pretty much every site you think about joining. Most of these people upload photographs of themselves, so you can see what they look like as well as get some idea of their personality by reading their profile. The more members there are, the more likely it is that you will meet someone you may want to have a relationship with. If you are new to internet dating, you should probably go with one of the larger more established dating sites as they will have more members than the more specialised niche dating sites.
Girls tend to get more interest on dating sites than guys do, so for this reason it is important that you pay special attention to your profile. If you wouldn't date someone 10 years older than you, then set your age range accordingly. Otherwise you will get emails from people who you would not want to go out with. Its only polite to answer emails, so unless you want to spend your time sending rejection emails then make your profile as refined as possible.
If you send messages to people you like, and reply to messages sent to you, it won't be too long before you are actually going on dates. Try and get to know the person as well as possible online before you meet them offline. This helps you to filter out the people who you know you won't like. There is no point in going on a series of first dates with people you aren't compatible with. This will only serve to give you a negative impression of online dating.
Dating online for singles can be a huge amount of fun, and it's a great way to meet other singles. There is no need to be depressed about being single anymore, online dating works and if you are prepared to commit some time to you will surely succeed.
About the Author
Julie Westbrook is an expert in the field of Internet Dating, and has recently launched a new site at http://www.Internet-Dating-Lowdown.com which aims to cover all aspects of the online dating experience for both men and women. Can't decide which dating site to go for? Why not try http://www.best-internet-dating-site.com
Monday, October 8, 2007
What Are the Odds of Finding Mr. Right Online?
The odds of finding your “soul-mate” online are a lot better than you may think. It doesn’t happen for everyone, of course, but it can happen for you. The world of internet or online dating has exploded over the last few years.
As our lives become busier and busier we need to make better use of our time and energy in our search for the one man who will make our lives complete.
The old saying, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a princess” is no longer true. Why kiss frogs when you can read hundreds of profiles and look at the pictures that go with them for a small monthly fee? That saves time and money…not to mention lip burn.
These are a few good reasons to consider online dating:
(1) There is a wide range of men to choose from. You aren’t limited to the men in your social circle or work environment.
(2) You have the opportunity to get to know a lot about a man before you ever contact him for the first time. You will know his age, marital status, what city he lives in, whether he has children, his height/weight and his likes and dislikes all from his profile. You’ll even see a picture of him.
(3) You have a better chance to present yourself in a favorable way. This is especially useful for those of us who are shy. We have time to think about how we want to say things about ourselves and can avoid being tongue tied. Even those who are more extroverted can take time to reflect on who they really are before writing their online profile.
(4) Online dating is certainly a time saver. You can meet so many more men in a lot less time than you ever could out in the real world.
As our lives become busier and busier we need to make better use of our time and energy in our search for the one man who will make our lives complete.
The old saying, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a princess” is no longer true. Why kiss frogs when you can read hundreds of profiles and look at the pictures that go with them for a small monthly fee? That saves time and money…not to mention lip burn.
These are a few good reasons to consider online dating:
(1) There is a wide range of men to choose from. You aren’t limited to the men in your social circle or work environment.
(2) You have the opportunity to get to know a lot about a man before you ever contact him for the first time. You will know his age, marital status, what city he lives in, whether he has children, his height/weight and his likes and dislikes all from his profile. You’ll even see a picture of him.
(3) You have a better chance to present yourself in a favorable way. This is especially useful for those of us who are shy. We have time to think about how we want to say things about ourselves and can avoid being tongue tied. Even those who are more extroverted can take time to reflect on who they really are before writing their online profile.
(4) Online dating is certainly a time saver. You can meet so many more men in a lot less time than you ever could out in the real world.
What Are the Odds of Finding Mr. Right Online?
The odds of finding your “soul-mate” online are a lot better than you may think. It doesn’t happen for everyone, of course, but it can happen for you. The world of internet or online dating has exploded over the last few years.
As our lives become busier and busier we need to make better use of our time and energy in our search for the one man who will make our lives complete.
The old saying, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a princess” is no longer true. Why kiss frogs when you can read hundreds of profiles and look at the pictures that go with them for a small monthly fee? That saves time and money…not to mention lip burn.
These are a few good reasons to consider online dating:
(1) There is a wide range of men to choose from. You aren’t limited to the men in your social circle or work environment.
(2) You have the opportunity to get to know a lot about a man before you ever contact him for the first time. You will know his age, marital status, what city he lives in, whether he has children, his height/weight and his likes and dislikes all from his profile. You’ll even see a picture of him.
(3) You have a better chance to present yourself in a favorable way. This is especially useful for those of us who are shy. We have time to think about how we want to say things about ourselves and can avoid being tongue tied. Even those who are more extroverted can take time to reflect on who they really are before writing their online profile.
(4) Online dating is certainly a time saver. You can meet so many more men in a lot less time than you ever could out in the real world.
As our lives become busier and busier we need to make better use of our time and energy in our search for the one man who will make our lives complete.
The old saying, “You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a princess” is no longer true. Why kiss frogs when you can read hundreds of profiles and look at the pictures that go with them for a small monthly fee? That saves time and money…not to mention lip burn.
These are a few good reasons to consider online dating:
(1) There is a wide range of men to choose from. You aren’t limited to the men in your social circle or work environment.
(2) You have the opportunity to get to know a lot about a man before you ever contact him for the first time. You will know his age, marital status, what city he lives in, whether he has children, his height/weight and his likes and dislikes all from his profile. You’ll even see a picture of him.
(3) You have a better chance to present yourself in a favorable way. This is especially useful for those of us who are shy. We have time to think about how we want to say things about ourselves and can avoid being tongue tied. Even those who are more extroverted can take time to reflect on who they really are before writing their online profile.
(4) Online dating is certainly a time saver. You can meet so many more men in a lot less time than you ever could out in the real world.
Thursday, July 12, 2007
How Do I Choose the Right Site For Me?
With the explosion of online dating sites has come a virtual smorgasbord of choices. There are free sites… I don’t recommend those but if money is a real concern, they are better than nothing. There are the large paid sites with many and varied features like chat, IM and even matching using profiles. There are the less expensive paid sites with few features. There are special interest sites for almost any thing you can think of...outdoor enthusiasts, couch potatoes, religious, non-religious, gays, lesbians…like I said…almost anything you can think of. So what’s a girl to do? A girl should choose the site or sites that best fit her needs.
Here are some things to consider:
(1) Cost. How much do you want or how much can you spend each month for your membership (s)?
(2) Features. Which features are the most important to you?
(A) Profile matching systems. Is this a feature you really want or would you rather decide who is right for you all by yourself?
(B) Chat and IM’s? There are websites who offer chat rooms and IM’s on their sites. Does that matter or would you be happy just sticking to private email.
(C) Outside Events…such as speed dating? Are you interested in that?
(D) Privacy. Some websites allow you to limit who can view your picture or your profile. Does this matter to you or do you want as wide exposure as you can have?
(E) Safety. There are websites who do background checks of all subscribers and certify their age, marital status and background. Would you feel safer using this feature?
These are a few things but not all things you should consider when choosing an online dating service or services. Do your homework and choose wisely for the best results for you.
Here are some things to consider:
(1) Cost. How much do you want or how much can you spend each month for your membership (s)?
(2) Features. Which features are the most important to you?
(A) Profile matching systems. Is this a feature you really want or would you rather decide who is right for you all by yourself?
(B) Chat and IM’s? There are websites who offer chat rooms and IM’s on their sites. Does that matter or would you be happy just sticking to private email.
(C) Outside Events…such as speed dating? Are you interested in that?
(D) Privacy. Some websites allow you to limit who can view your picture or your profile. Does this matter to you or do you want as wide exposure as you can have?
(E) Safety. There are websites who do background checks of all subscribers and certify their age, marital status and background. Would you feel safer using this feature?
These are a few things but not all things you should consider when choosing an online dating service or services. Do your homework and choose wisely for the best results for you.
Thursday, June 21, 2007
Blind Date vs Internet Date
Your friend has decided that you need help with your social life so she sets you up with a blind date….a friend of a friend of a friend. You, foolishly, accept. Now there you are. It’s less than one hour since you were introduced. You are sitting in a Thai restaurant and you hate Thai food. The entrée has not yet been served. His idea of enlightened conversation is who will be in the final four…you aren’t into sports. He knows the weekly TV schedule verbatim….you haven’t sat through a movie in months because you run marathons and volunteer at the local food bank. He says, “Volunteering is a waste of time because you can’t help ‘those people’ anyway.” You look at your watch; see that it’s only been 10 minutes since you last looked at it the last time and wonder how long it is before you can gracefully remove yourself from the situation. Been there?
Now imagine a date with someone you met through internet dating and have been chatting online with and exchanging emails with for quite some time. First, you don’t need to be introduced. You already know this man. You are sitting in an Italian restaurant enjoying a delightful meal because you both know that the other’s favorite is Italian. The conversation flows easily as you discuss common interests. He runs marathons and loves history just like you do. You happily discuss the volunteer work that each of you is involved in. You look at your watch and discover that it is late…very late…where Has the time gone.
There is a big difference between a well-intentioned friend “setting you up” and choosing a man for yourself who shares your interests and tastes, isn’t there? Now which one would you rather have?
Now imagine a date with someone you met through internet dating and have been chatting online with and exchanging emails with for quite some time. First, you don’t need to be introduced. You already know this man. You are sitting in an Italian restaurant enjoying a delightful meal because you both know that the other’s favorite is Italian. The conversation flows easily as you discuss common interests. He runs marathons and loves history just like you do. You happily discuss the volunteer work that each of you is involved in. You look at your watch and discover that it is late…very late…where Has the time gone.
There is a big difference between a well-intentioned friend “setting you up” and choosing a man for yourself who shares your interests and tastes, isn’t there? Now which one would you rather have?
Wednesday, June 20, 2007
A Woman's Guide to Writing a Great Profile
OK…the time has come. You have joined an online dating service or two. Now you must write that all-important profile… the one that will attract attention and reel in the man of your dreams… but where to start? Maybe writing isn’t even something you think you do all that well. Even so, you can do this.
The first thing is to be absolutely honest about yourself. You are looking for that man who will like…maybe someday love…YOU….THE REAL YOU! Examine past relationships and list the things that you liked and the things you did not like. If he smoked in the house and you hated it, you won’t like it any better the next time. If you love cats and will always want to own one or more, say that you are an animal lover and want indoor pets. Someone who hates cats or is allergic to them is not the guy for you.
Accent the things that make you unique. If you play the piano well, you really want Mr. Right to appreciate it. If you run in marathons, a couch potato is not a good match. If you love art, you really don’t want a man who thinks Picasso is an ice cream flavor.
Describe the things that are vital in your life. If volunteering is the one thing that makes you feel useful and worthwhile, you want someone who would, at the very least, support you if not join you in your volunteer projects. When you get beyond superficial things, you will attract men who share your values.
Invest in your online profile by hiring a professional photographer for your first online picture. This is so important. The picture is the FIRST thing men see. The second thing is that they read what you have written about yourself. Some online dating sites even provide you with a list of photographers in your area that specialize in online dating site photos.
The first thing is to be absolutely honest about yourself. You are looking for that man who will like…maybe someday love…YOU….THE REAL YOU! Examine past relationships and list the things that you liked and the things you did not like. If he smoked in the house and you hated it, you won’t like it any better the next time. If you love cats and will always want to own one or more, say that you are an animal lover and want indoor pets. Someone who hates cats or is allergic to them is not the guy for you.
Accent the things that make you unique. If you play the piano well, you really want Mr. Right to appreciate it. If you run in marathons, a couch potato is not a good match. If you love art, you really don’t want a man who thinks Picasso is an ice cream flavor.
Describe the things that are vital in your life. If volunteering is the one thing that makes you feel useful and worthwhile, you want someone who would, at the very least, support you if not join you in your volunteer projects. When you get beyond superficial things, you will attract men who share your values.
Invest in your online profile by hiring a professional photographer for your first online picture. This is so important. The picture is the FIRST thing men see. The second thing is that they read what you have written about yourself. Some online dating sites even provide you with a list of photographers in your area that specialize in online dating site photos.
Tuesday, June 19, 2007
A Woman’s “Don’ts” of Online Dating
There are some things that women should never do while engaged in an online relationship with a man. These things are certain to put a quick and final end to any further communications with him.
While chatting online or by email do not write your life story. His eyes will glaze over and he will fall out of his chair. Keep it short and sweet until he asks for details…then provide them slowly and only answer the questions he asks. For instance: If he asks how many siblings you have, he is NOT asking for the details of your interaction with them. He really just wants to know how many you have. Say you have 2 (or whatever is true) and then ask how many he has. For every question he asks you, you should ask one of him. Nothing turns a man off like a long- winded woman who just doesn’t know when to shut up or how to listen.
Never, ever, EVER lie. I really believe that lies will catch up with you sooner or later. Many women (and men) lie about their age, marital status, employment, height, weight and a host of other things in their online profiles. That is a huge mistake. If you find a man who you are really interested in, he will find out you lied and there goes any possibility of the relationship progressing. So, just be honest. There is someone out there who will like you…even come to love you…for exactly the person you are.
Don’t be too eager. It makes you look desperate and it really puts a man off. They are first and foremost conquerors and if getting the person of their desires to like them too is just too easy, they will quickly lose interest. I don’t mean play “hard-to-get”. I mean, don’t push for a face-to-face meeting. Don’t email them or IM them too frequently. Play it safe and play it cool.
While chatting online or by email do not write your life story. His eyes will glaze over and he will fall out of his chair. Keep it short and sweet until he asks for details…then provide them slowly and only answer the questions he asks. For instance: If he asks how many siblings you have, he is NOT asking for the details of your interaction with them. He really just wants to know how many you have. Say you have 2 (or whatever is true) and then ask how many he has. For every question he asks you, you should ask one of him. Nothing turns a man off like a long- winded woman who just doesn’t know when to shut up or how to listen.
Never, ever, EVER lie. I really believe that lies will catch up with you sooner or later. Many women (and men) lie about their age, marital status, employment, height, weight and a host of other things in their online profiles. That is a huge mistake. If you find a man who you are really interested in, he will find out you lied and there goes any possibility of the relationship progressing. So, just be honest. There is someone out there who will like you…even come to love you…for exactly the person you are.
Don’t be too eager. It makes you look desperate and it really puts a man off. They are first and foremost conquerors and if getting the person of their desires to like them too is just too easy, they will quickly lose interest. I don’t mean play “hard-to-get”. I mean, don’t push for a face-to-face meeting. Don’t email them or IM them too frequently. Play it safe and play it cool.
3 Online Dating Mistakes to Avoid
While you search the internet for that special lady…the one of your dreams…your soul-mate…the other half of yourself, you can do a lot of things right. Sadly, you can, also, do a lot of things wrong….things that will guarantee failure and a broken heart. Out in the “real” world, being aggressive, demanding perfection and even little white lies are all ingredients for success. However, those same qualities are killers when you are dating online and off line, too, for that matter.
There is a big difference between being aggressive or confident and being too aggressive, over-confident, or just plain sleazy or slimy from a woman’s point of view. If you push too hard for a face-to-face, you will come across as too aggressive…maybe even, scary. Try to remember that you are not trying to close a business deal and keep the relationship progressing at a slow but steady pace. Patience is the key.
Nobody is perfect. We are all flawed in some way or another…and that includes you, as well. If you expect the woman to be absolutely perfect and demand that, you will always be disappointed. Demanding perfectionism in your work is one thing. Demanding perfectionism from a friend, co-worker or a lady you are interested in is not just fine. It won’t happen. Expect flaws and just deal with them. Decide the ones you can live with and those you can’t.
Little white lies and false fronts won’t work. Be honest from the beginning of a relationship. Write your profile. Make it interesting but don’t make false statements. The truth will come out eventually anyway. If you say you are a lawyer who makes a million bucks a year and you are really an electrician that makes $75,000, you have set yourself up for failure.
Remember…don’t be too aggressive, expect to ever find perfection or put on a false front.
There is a big difference between being aggressive or confident and being too aggressive, over-confident, or just plain sleazy or slimy from a woman’s point of view. If you push too hard for a face-to-face, you will come across as too aggressive…maybe even, scary. Try to remember that you are not trying to close a business deal and keep the relationship progressing at a slow but steady pace. Patience is the key.
Nobody is perfect. We are all flawed in some way or another…and that includes you, as well. If you expect the woman to be absolutely perfect and demand that, you will always be disappointed. Demanding perfectionism in your work is one thing. Demanding perfectionism from a friend, co-worker or a lady you are interested in is not just fine. It won’t happen. Expect flaws and just deal with them. Decide the ones you can live with and those you can’t.
Little white lies and false fronts won’t work. Be honest from the beginning of a relationship. Write your profile. Make it interesting but don’t make false statements. The truth will come out eventually anyway. If you say you are a lawyer who makes a million bucks a year and you are really an electrician that makes $75,000, you have set yourself up for failure.
Remember…don’t be too aggressive, expect to ever find perfection or put on a false front.
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